Online Dating FAQ

Here are some answers to frequently asked questions regarding online dating, and lesbian dating in general. Feel free to contact me if you'd like any other questions answered.

If you feel like you might be interested in online lesbian dating, but you still have some questions, this is the perfect place to start. Below you will find some of the most common questions about lesbian dating along with their answers:

What is online dating?

Online dating is a misleading term. You are not actually ‘dating’ anyone over the internet, but rather meeting people over the internet. The best online dating sites pride themselves on finding compatible matches for you, and in time, you will meet some of these people in real life where the dating really begins.

Why use online dating?

Online dating can connect you with millions of different people; you have so much more exposure on the internet than in real life. By starting with such a large member base, and then narrowing down your choices to the cream of the crop, you can find extremely compatible matches in much less time than the more traditional dating methods. Millions of people have successfully use online dating (with a higher than average success rate!) and you could be next.

How is online dating different for lesbians?

Online dating for lesbians is not too much different from dating for the heterosexual crowd. Building your profile, meeting your matches, and finding true love are not things that vary based on sexual orientation. The only real difference is in the start. You will simply need to say you are a woman seeking a woman.

After that, the lesbian dating service of your choice should be able to filter out men and heterosexual women. You should also be aware that some dating sites do not accept lesbians (such as eHarmony). Also, familiarize yourself with with some of the lesbian terms and abbreviations by checking out our lesbian dating glossary.

Do I have to post a picture?

You don’t have to, but you should. Studies have shown that profiles with pictures are over five times more likely to be viewed! Even if you are not happy with your appearance, you can’t hide from the people you are interested in forever.

Also posing a picture shows a level of honesty and dedication that your potential matches will respect. If you can, try to use a picture that captures you doing something you love, or something that gives readers some insight into your personality.

Is Online Dating Safe

In general, yes. There are a few precautions you can take to protect yourself such as limiting your personal information, but just like regular in-person dating, there is always a small amount of risk. The most important thing to remember is that you know nothing about the people you talk to online until you meet in person (they could even be lying about their gender). By following safe online dating guidelines you can protect yourself without turning your back on all the amazing opportunities found in online dating.

How much does it cost?

Generally it is free to sign up and create a profile at an online dating service. This gives you a chance to test drive the service before you pay anything. Once you find a site you are happy with, it generally costs $10-$30 per month, but if you sign up for several months at a time you can get some great deals. Remember what you are paying for though. When you are searching for love, it’s hard to justify low quality services to save a few dollars.

What type of relationship can I expect?

You can likely find any kind of relationship you want. Some sites focus on providing you with a lasting commitment and working towards marriage, such as PerfectMatch.com. Other sites (such as Adult Friend Finder) are designed to help you find no strings attached sex partners. Most websites have members looking for all kinds of relationships, and you simply have to pick and choose what you are interested in.

When should I meet my potential matches in real life?

Reputable dating services will give you communication tools on their sites so you don’t have to give out any personal information. After using these messaging tools, you generally jump to email or phone contact.

If you are still interested in the person after that you should suggest the first meeting. There is no set-in-stone time frame for this, but keep in mind that every relationship moves at its own pace. Both of you should be ready and willing before you start making any plans.

How well is my personal information protected?

Dating sites should NEVER give out any of your personal information, and if you believe they might have, you should contact them immediately. Also, you need to be careful about what information you put in your profile. Anyone can read this, and you never know who is looking. Keep your name, address, phone number, and place of work off of your profile.

What if I am bisexual?

Most dating sites are extremely flexible in this regard. Usually you can submit yourself as a woman seeking men and women. Opening your search results to heterosexual men will also allow you to see a MUCH larger number of matches if you interested.